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There are moments in Scripture when we hear that God delights in people, and I am incredulous. But they are few and far between. Perhaps cooler heads determined that too much welcome would make sissies out of us all, and chose instead accounts of the ever popular slaughter, exile, and shame. Various chapters and verses of this book would remind us that we are wanted and even occasionally delighted in, despite the unfortunate truth that we are greedy-grabby, self-referential, indulgent, overly judgmental, and often hysterical.
We have to write that book ourselves.
‘Small Victories’ by Anne Lamott
Where can we begin, in the face of clearly not having been cherished for who we are, by certain tall, anxiously shut-down people in our childhood homes, whom I will not name? How far back does the sense of provisional welcome go? I would start with my first memory. My grandparents paid two thousand dollars for a rustic one-room cottage that was several hundred yards from Duxbury Point, from which you could see a great expanse of ocean, the horizon, and the reef below.
My grandparents, who had traveled the world in their work as Christian missionaries, had brought back eight or so Mexican sorcery masks made of wood, and they hung these on the cabin wall.
Each one had devil eyes surrounded in white that glowed in the dark. The fangs did, too. I had already begun my work as a lifelong insomniac, and would stay up or wake in the glare of these eyes and teeth, terrified to the core.
“Small Victories: Spotting Improbable Moments of Grace” by Anne Lamott
I remember that when my parents tried, grumpily, to comfort me in the middle of the night, I pointed to these masks as the source of my terror. Those are just masks! My presence would wake him up. He would push me back onto my side of the bed.
I would come crawling back like green slime. Then he would begin to hit me. Anyone would have hit me, I realize now. Jesus would have hit me. Sometimes I even woke screaming from these nightmares at the cabin.
This further endeared me to everyone. I also had dreams back at home where the masks had found me, ten towns away, and one in which my mother turned around at the stove with a spatula in one hand, her sanpaku eyes glittering behind a bruja mask with hemp hair.
But the masks stayed up. By then I had migraines, too, and felt freakish and forlorn. The reality is that most of us lived our first decades feeling welcome only when certain conditions applied: we felt safe and embraced only when the parental units were getting along, when we were on our best behavior, doing well in school, not causing problems, and had as few needs as possible.
If you needed more from them, best of luck. In the beginning, there was implantation, which was either the best or the worst news, and then God or life did some voodoo knitting that created each of us.
Small Victories: Spotting Improbable Moments of Grace
We came into the world one by one. The next thing we knew, we were at the dinner table with delusional and unhappy people, who drank, or should have drunk, and who simultaneously had issues with rigidity and no boundaries. You were thwarting their good intentions with your oddness and bad posture.
They liked to think their love was unconditional. Sadly, though, the child who showed up at the table for meals was not the child the parents had set out to make. They seemed surprised all over again.
You just knew that attention had to be paid constantly to their moods, their mental health levels, their rising irritation, and the volume of beer consumed. Yes, there were many happy memories marbled in, too, of picnics, pets, beaches. But I will remind you now that inconsistency is how experimenters regularly drive lab rats over the edge.
Maybe they knew the child was on to them, could see through them, could see the truth, could see how cracked, unstable, and distant they were. We knew their most intimate smells and sounds and vulnerabilities, like tiny spies.
The whole game in the fifties and early sixties was for no one to know who you really were. We children were witness to the total pretense of how our parents wanted the world to see them.
We helped them maintain this image, because if anyone outside the family could see who they really were deep down, the whole system, the ship of your family, might sink. We held our breath to give the ship buoyancy. We were little air tanks. They knew deep down they were manic-depressive crazy people, but they wanted others to see them as good family men and women, peaceful warriors, worker bees, and activists who were making the world safe for democracy.
We knew how to keep secrets. Also, our parents came with siblings who adored us, because we were not theirs. They actually got me. There she is! The way they looked across the table at me, with pleasure and wonder, taught me what love looked like. Their love was dependable refuge during the life-threatening teenage years.
No one on earth feels less welcomed and more deformed than teenagers. Drinking was essential to my feeling semi-okay. I was so loved by best friends, yet I was scared a lot of the time, of many people, of failure, of sexual things that I thought or did or wanted to do. I developed a lot of charm, humor, and smarts, so I could bat the demons away. But they always came back.
Teachers began to welcome me, almost like friends, because I was smart, funny, and desperate. They gave me a lot of encouragement when I most felt like a complete loser, and then they gave me the great books that held the key to life: All humans felt alone, damaged, deformed, alien, and toxic. Toxic R Us. And all of the great writers drank, except for Kafka and Nietzsche, neither of whom you exactly wanted to be when you grew up.
College gave me passionate friends, some of whom stayed close, along with a sense of both political and creative purpose, from which I have not veered.
But at some point you had to leave; you tried to make a life. You know the rest. The eerie carousel ride of adulthood, the warped music, gaudy paint, the vertigo of triumphs and hidden dangers in grown-up life. High performance always made everything better. An awful lot of busyness helped, too, but not nearly as much as alcohol or sex, preferably both. Then, in my thirties, my system crashed.
I got sober, because I had gone crazy. A few women in the community reached out to me. They recognized me as a frightened lush. It was a nightmare, and then my salvation. It turns out that welcome is solidarity.
This whole project called you being alive, you finding joy? I learned early in sobriety that there were two points of view about me—how my close friends saw me, and how I saw myself.
I figured it was obvious that I was a fraud, and kind of disgusting. My friends thought I was irresistible, profoundly worthy of trust. I thought at first that one view must be wrong, and I made the most radical decision, for the time being, to believe my friends. I welcomed my lovable self back, with a small party, just the cat, me, and imaginary cups of tea, which I raised with an outstretched pinkie.
This welcoming toward myself took a big adjustment, a rebalancing of my soul. There had been so much energy thrown into performance, achievement, and disguise. I felt I had gotten a permission slip for the great field trip, to the heart of myself, in the protection of a few trusted friends. Frankly, I was hoping to see more white cliffs and beaches, fewer swamps and shadows, but this was real life, the nature of things, full of both wonder and rot.
As soon as I was able, my friends encouraged me to go back to reclaim the devious, dark part of me. I invited her in: Pull up a chair at the table, hon. How do we understand that something welcoming remains, sometimes hidden, that we can still trust? When all seems lost, a few friends, the view, and random last-ditch moments of grace, like Liquid Wrench, will do. The offer heals you both. What works best is to target people in the community whom no one else seems to want.
We want you, as is. Can you believe it? Come on in. Sit down. Let me get you a nice cup of tea. Would you like a lime juice bar? From the time I got sober and started remembering my dreams in the morning, the old cabin has been the setting for most of the dreams that involve my family.
It is a stand-in for the dinner table, for the saga of intergenerational sickness, mental illness, secrecy. My very favorite dream featured a family reunion years ago, where my grown brothers had gathered for a meal at the dining table with our parents, who were alive and healthy.
The cabin looked like it had been tricked out by Laura Ashley, with bed skirts on the trundle beds, doilies on the chairs. Sadly, though, someone had tracked in dog poop, and gotten it all over the rugs and bed skirts. But I have needed a book of welcome for such a long time. Look how often lonely people kill themselves, or others.
Look at what squandered and ridiculous lives most people lead. The book of welcome says, Let people see you. They see that your upper arms are beautiful, soft and clean and warm, and then they will see this about their own, some of the time.
It blows you away, how this wonderful event happened—me in your life, you in mine. Two parts fit together. It could almost make a believer out of you.
Of course, life will randomly go to hell every so often, too. Cold winds arrive and prick you; the rain falls down your neck; darkness comes.
But now there are two of you.
Holy Moly. When I grew up, girls were taught to minimize how much they had given, how much time and hard work something had taken.
It might not even be noticed at first, because people expected you to do things for them.The younger middle-aged people struggle with the same financial, substance, and marital crises that their parents did, and the older middle-aged people are, like me, no longer even late-middle-aged.
It turns out that welcome is solidarity. If generosity is nothing, then what is anything? How do we understand that something welcoming remains, sometimes hidden, that we can still trust? No one on earth feels less welcomed and more deformed than teenagers. As soon as I was able, my friends encouraged me to go back to reclaim the devious, dark part of me. They felt entitled to largesse.
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